AVOID DISAPPOINTMENTS by Dero Pedero
Disappointments are part and parcel of life. In this circus of existence, you cannot have your way all the time. Things change, people change. Events and results have an unpredictable and uncontrollable way of happening. To keep your self from being utterly frustrated and dismayed, here are some things to avoid or at least soften the pangs of great disappointment:
Expect the best but be ready for the worst.
When you work hard on something, it’s natural to expect the best results and the most glorious rewards. But sometimes things don’t turn out the way you want them to. To keep from being dreadfully dismayed, expect the best, but at the same time, psyche yourself up for the worst. Then you’ll be ready for any unexpected turn of events!
Give it your best shot.
Much of the frustration that follows a failure is the big disappointment you feel towards yourself. When you do not try hard enough, you are overcome with guilt and regret. In whatever you are doing, do your best; give it your best shot. Then you’ll know you did all you can and you should be proud for trying.
Realize that you cannot own people.
We often expect to act of be a certain way that would be congruous to how we want them to be. Realize that you do not and cannot own people. Each person has his own mind and the natural right to free will. Give others the gift of space and freedom. Remember that when you lose someone, whatever you were expecting was not meant to be.
Realize that we are just temporary stewards of things.
When you lose material things, whether they are stolen from you or gutted down by a fire, minimize your grief by realizing that we are just temporary keepers of what we own. They will finally find their way to where they were destined to be. Besides, when you finally go, you cannot take a single thing with you.
Never expect anything back.
People get bitterly disappointed when they don’t get back what they give to others. People always expect (some even demand!) repayment. This is a major cause of extreme frustration. When you help someone (especially financially) do not expect anything back. Think of it as a gift of love that’s given freely and completely with no strings attached.
Don’t pin your life on one person.
You would be doing yourself a great injustice if you pinned your life on one person. No one person should take control, importance or dominance over your existence. People come and go in our lives. If you depend too much on someone, you will feel so shattered, helpless and hopeless if you lose him. Make sure you can stand on your own two feet. And live your dreams, not other people’s.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
To avoid disappointment from losing anything, don’t put all your eggs in one basket. It’s a good practice to have more than one project happening so that when one fails, you have others to look forward to. Regarding financial investment, it is wise to diversify. The more things you have going, the less chance of losing it all.
Realize that success is a combination of many factors.